It happened again leakage/sex

Have you already done kegel exercises to strengthen the sphincter muscle? This muscle is stressed less with a pouch than with a normal rectum, that's why it may get weaker over the years.

A bowel slower taken some time in advance may also be an option.

The problem you are having is understandably tough.  I wonder if you could potentially do a quick water enema to clean out the pouch completely about 10 minutes before sex.  That is a lot to do before the moment, but that could help maybe.  I agree that Imodium an hour or two before hand could help.

Hi there,

I am so very sorry you’re experiencing this. I’ve not had that happen to me, but I’ve always worried about it. So much so that I purposely don’t eat before being intimate. Obviously, that can’t always be the case if things happen spontaneously. You mentioned that you only see eachother on the weekends so maybe you can plan your meal for afterwards.

All the best to you my friend.

After reading this last night I came here to say, long term, pelvic floor exercises might help, and for a quick solution, an enema before the loving starts might help since if there is no poop, it can't leak out.  Others have already gotten to it, though!

I'm so excited for your fun new relationship with lots of sexiness.  Embarrassing as it might be, I have notice that the keepers don't get that freaked out by my own personal brand of grossness.

Wow everybody! Those are good ideas. I haven’t done an enema in probably 20 years. I wonder how long it keeps the area clear because it might be an hour or more between doing it and DOING IT😂. I really appreciate all your comments and compassion and understanding. I’ve also tried the not eating thing. So far that had been successful for the first 4 months of our relationship. I just need to be more careful. Kegles! Ok. I guess I hate them less than accidents, so I will start.  And thank you for being happy for me Because this is a new life after a fourty year relationship that was nothing like this. I’m pretty old to be acting like a teenager, but I’m so grateful. Grateful for you guys as well! Who else could understand?

Look up pelvic floor exercises on the internet...there is much more to it than kegels!  I like this set of exercises:

https://www.womenshealthmag.co...QlosWSBoCp0wQAvD_BwE

Thank you!

A few things might help, firstly if you only eat protein meals then you will have fewer problems...it is low density and will slow you down. Next, eat for sex. In other words, until you have mastered those poor muscles and your Keigles, avoid food for a few hours beforehand...Breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper...

And yes, many, many, many moons ago it happened. I had a leaky valve on my K pouch and it just opened up and poured out...I was 19 and the world ended when it happened. Fortunately for me, the guy understood and I survived the humiliation.

It may take a while but you will survive this too.

Sharon

Lomotil works taken a few hours before your "fun" starts! Works every time.

Thanks Twinkie! I had a doctor that refused to prescribe it because it has a little bit of opioid in it. Maybe I’ll try another doctor. Things have gone off the rails because of the opioid crisis and the over correction of the legislature where I live.

OK, so here goes. I experienced the exact same thing, and to make it even worse, I have a fistula that creates even more leakage, only vaginally to go along with the other end. I am a huge proponent of Metamucil. It solved the problem 100%. It adds bulk to your stool, so it is formed and no longer loose and watery. Also eliminates gas. But I take a lot for it to work so well, both morning and evening every single day of my life. It's been a life-changer. Good luck!

@Meatball posted:

OK, so here goes. I experienced the exact same thing, and to make it even worse, I have a fistula that creates even more leakage, only vaginally to go along with the other end. I am a huge proponent of Metamucil. It solved the problem 100%. It adds bulk to your stool, so it is formed and no longer loose and watery. Also eliminates gas. But I take a lot for it to work so well, both morning and evening every single day of my life. It's been a life-changer. Good luck!

Wow, I never knew metamucil eliminates gas...what ingredient makes it do that?

Hi meatball,

could you please tell me how much Metamucil you take and what kind? Also, how many hours of stool free time do you get after you eat? I know we’re all different, but just trying to figure it out. Thanks for this!

Metamucil only has one active ingredient (psyllium). Some people get gassy from it, some get reduced gas, and some get neither. The optimal dose for each person is individual, but it’s easy, inexpensive, and low risk to experiment to find what’s best for you. Start with the directions on the package and vary from there.

I get the store brand, either from Target or Walmart. My personal preference is to mix the container that has sugar with the container with artificial sweetener, half and half (one is too sweet, one not sweet enough). In the morning, I take the equivalent of  1 1/2 tablespoons, same after dinner. I don't mix it with water, I just scoop it into my mouth a little at a time, and chase it with a swallow of water. I take so much I find it's easier and quicker than mixing it with a lot of water, as you have to drink it quickly or it will thicken. I would start out with less and see how you do. I had to experiment and eventually found the perfect formula for me.

Thanks everyone!!