This conversation reminds of the multitude of conversations that I have had with pregnant friends and family who tell me that they would never, ever 'keep' a sick or handicapped child (refernce to me and my problems?)...then when the amniocentisis results come in and they find out that that there is a 'problem' they do not choose to 'remove' the baby...They are the same mothers who tell you that they would never 'trade' their child for a 'normal' child for anything in the world. No one knows what they will do until they are faced with a decision. Some of us react better than others...some don't...and some bluster all sorts of stuff to defend themselves against the fear.
The best thing, IMO is to never judge...would we all prefer to have perfectly healthy colons/bodies? No contest. Would we prefer to have never gotten sick? Oh, yes...but we don't often have a choice and have to learn to live with the end results...some of us live better than others with it, no matter what it is but the fact remains that none of us, in the end, have a healthy colon and the rest is just intelectualisation of 'the best of the worst' case senario.
(very long winded response)...
Love each other children, because we are the only ones who will love and understand you completely.
Sharon