Too much time off... Uc destroyed my life

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It is a too common tale, I'm afraid. Many people worry about becoming more trouble than they are worth, and getting laid off. Some have been let go from their jobs because of their illness. It sucks!

While you may be feeling punished, it is more of a bad luck scenario. I imagine that other employees want time off too and there is a limit on how many employees can be off work. Employers probably feel punished for having to deal with sick employees. But, your boss was out of line for chewing you out in front of your peers.

It must be awful to not be able to visit your new grand babies. Try not to get too depressed about it. Can you Skype or Facetime to feel more connected to your family?

Jan

Jan,

Your right about seeing both sides. She asked today if I was still mad at her and I said no. I just didn't agree with how she did it. I am going to see my grand babies in July. I just am making sure I have my reconnect surgery after everyone has enjoyed the summer.

Yeah, bosses are people too. Fallible and sometimes they just react and say and do stupid things. Of course, some are full time jerks! One of the biggest stressors my husband had as a boss was having to tell people news they did not want to hear. Can't please everybody and those above him expected him to run a tight ship. Now that he's retired, he is so much happier.

If you can focus on what you have rather what you don't you'll be happier. How lucky you are to have a family you care about and cares about you!

Jan

Wow....I took nine months and could have taken more off.
I feel for you. Bad enough we have to deal with all we have to deal with and then they put more pressure on you.
The thing about our illness it is something you cannot see. Unless you had a huge weight loss. If you can't see it they don't think you are sick.
My story is kind of opposite of yours.
I don't want to hijack your thread.
I work on a freight dock driving a fork lift moving freight from trailer to trailer. Sometimes loose cartons are involved but thank goodness I have enough seniority (it is a union shop) younger guys get those. But back to the guys I work with. They overwhelmed me with a welcome back. Total surprise. The Terminal Manager...boss...had a meeting with the guys I work with and asked them to watch out for me in the heat and such and to make sure I do not over do it. This was all unbeknownst to me. I was all down and stressed when I went back but after five minutes back I knew it would be alright. I have been blessed and didn't even know it and now I am more grateful to work with these men than ever before. I will never take their frendships for granted again. Let it be know that this is a place you do your eight hours and get out. I did. Not anymore. Don't get me wrong I am a hard worker still even at 58 and would help anyone there that needed help. They all knew that but I was never a big bullsitter...don't want to swear. I never knew how many friends I had till I went back. It all seemed so casual before but now I spend time with them all and thank and bless them all for what has been done and what they are doing to help.
But back to your situation. Simple and clear.
I would have been put into a huge depression had that happened to me and I thank God it has not.
Like i said before we have enough to deal with just our bodies let alone someone piling onto it.
I would hope she...he has calmed and understands.
I have four grand kids...they are my wifes and my lifes. One of the reasons I went through this.
Bless you and I hope things are better for you at work and home with your grand kids.
Sorry for the long read but I do get carried away....too much time on my hands. Haha.
Richard.

Halo,
I am both non-contractual-salaried and self employed...hard to balance especially when sick...expectations are very high on you and you are ultimately very expendable. I have 'hid' my illness from 90% of my employers because of how easy it is to get booted out ( spent 3 yrs begging for work after the 3rd round of surgeries)...so I can understand the "being the boss with the sick employee and being the sickie"...neither are fun. They have responsibilities, commitments and expectations for production, you have them too but differently.
The only solution that I know of is talk, talk, talk it out. Ask them what they need from you and tell them what you can do, if possible from home...try for some sort of compromise.
By the way, congrats on the G babies!
Sharon

Thanks guys you have really lifted my spirits.

Richard, no you did not talk to much. Your story made me realize there is other out there that do care. My boss does care, she just brought the conversation up in the wrong place.

It's good that your boss got it together.
Hard enough for us to get it together!
I do ramble a bit at times.....