Sorry I have not been around much lately. My step-mom was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago and was placed on hospice care about a month ago. She is slowly dieing, and has a very strong heart and will to live. I have been busy helping out daily (we kept her home at her assisted living apartment). In addition, my husband is preparing for a complex trial and is needing my paralegal help. So, I've had a full plate lately. Even returned early from a weekend trip because of the step-mom issue.

So, be patient with me...


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jan- So sorry to hear about your stepmum. Be sure to also take care of yoruself while your taking care of your family.
I'm fine. Like the Energizer Bunny! Just busy and I like being lazy when I can, but damn if life keeps throwing gum in the works!

Please though, when my number is up, a big heart attack or something, not this long drawn out, waste away to a skeleton scenario...

Jan Smiler
Jan - sorry to hear of your stepmom and everything else you got going on there. And I agree with you fully on your "when my number is up" philosophy.

Do what you gotta do, and above all us, take care of yourself!
Sorry to hear about your step mom! Prayers to you and your family! Your wisdom on this site is invaluable! Thanks for all your good advice!
Sorry to hear what you're going through.

I just wanted to thank you for all your responses, to me and everyone else.

This board is so much better off with you here (and taking breaks is much deserved)
So sorry you're dealing with so much...please know that I am sending positive vibes and many prayers your way. Please take care of yourself...
Thinking about you and sending big hugs. It was said before, and bears repeating:
You gotta take care of yourself first before you can take care of others. Go get a massage!

Prayers to you and your family. I took care of my mom who passed away from pancreatic cancer in 1993 then my dad who passed away in 1998 from emphysema. It was tough but I am glad I was with them till the end. End of life care is so important to the patient and the family involved. Good luck.
Just popping in for a moment. She's still hanging in there, actively dying for two weeks now. We hired a live in caregiver, and it is a good thing too, or my step-sister and I would be completely wrung out. Mom is still coming around and asking for water, which is just prolonging things. The hospice nurses keep saying, "days away," but she's fighting it. Sad to watch, but we are keeping her comfortable...

But, the daily visits, refilling meds for the caregiver, meeting with hospice, etc...wearing us down.

Jan Smiler

Sorry to hear of your troubles - we've already been through it with my in - laws but my Mom s still hanging in at 94.

The worry and strain of caring for an aging and seriously ill parent can sure burn you out in a hurry. You have my sympathy.

I'm with you on the take me quick ( don't want to go sitting' on the John!)

Best wishes to you and your family. I know taking care of a family member can be stressful. All the best to you. Take care of yourself.
Just checking in again. My step-mom died last week, so we've been busy with the arrangements and trying to sort through some of her stuff. Hubby is still in trial too, so bit of a pressure cooker here.

Hopefully, things will settle down by the end of the month.

Wish me luck, and thanks again for everyone's kind words and support.

Jan Smiler
I am sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself during this stressful time and God bless you and your family.
so sorry for your loss...hoping that the support of your friends and family AND this group, will help you through this difficult time
just read your post, I was signing on to pm you and see how things were going.
So sorry to hear of your loss.
My prayers are with you and your family.
We are sorry to hear of your loss and the additional stress of the trial. You are surely being a rock of stability to your husband during this trying time, just like you have been for so many of us in the past. Please take some time for yourself, too. You deserve it.
Thanks everyone! As many of you know, the real work begins after the death of a loved one, as nothing can happen while you await the inevitable. So, the viewing, memorial, an interment are over, and we now move forward to emptying the apartment and settle her estate.

But, tomorrow I relax. We are headed to San Francisco for a stay on Nob Hill and dinner at the kitchy Tonga Room. Celebrating our 36th anniversary. Should be fun.

Jan Big Grin

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