CeeCeeee (how many 'e's?)
I wish that I could 'martini' but I can't..I have an alergy to wine (and whine) and cannot drink most alcohols or I get a nasty reaction (goes from rashes to rushes to ER)...I have Tramadol and like you said it does not kill the main but takes it just under the line of intollerable....it helps a bit...But not enough when I am tearing my hair out in agony, rolling on the floor and wishing for a swift end to it all...(at least to all of the pain....).
For now I have put myself back on Nsaids and that helps.
With a lot of chiropractic and a little nsaid we are getting to the root of the pain and putting my body parts back where they belong...I can feel the pain suddenly evaporate as soon as we get to one of the root blocages and unblock it! It is absolutely amazing. Some of the blockages have been there for so long that I was starting to look like a Bonzai tree, all twisted up and now I am able to stand straighter and walk with less pain....any progress is progress.
Frances...
I feel your pain. Oh, so much.
Although I was never shy like you and usually very smiley and fun this disease and all of its horrible manifestations (incontinence, cramping, lock-down in the bathroom for hours...) made me a shut in for years.
It also made me poor. No money to go out, only for meds, treatments, surgeries etc...so my social life in the most beautiful city in the world, sucked!
I couldn't go to theaters, movies or museums (their bathrooms are too few and too far away and so under-equipped for a k poucher), the metro was terrifying some days and the risk of leaking and messing myself in public has always kept me locked in whenever there was a risk. I have never driven in this city and like in the burbs so the fear was real.
I have missed out on so much.
We live in the center of Europe and I have never been to most places for the same reasons.
Hubby, who is a social animal and used to be invited to all sorts of weekends, coctail parties and events would either go without me or not go at all...now he just refuses.
I love to entertain (thankfully) but obviously when you are sick, that is the last thing that you want...Strangers or clients watching and waiting for you to come out of the bathroom....now, it seems that my workplace has noticed my 'problem' and no longer want me in the office using their toilet...horrors or embarassment and discomfort. I often feel like a leper.
But I soldier on...no choice...I do not want to give up or give in. I am a fighter and although I get into a funk sometimes, go all deep and quiet inside, I eventually get back to being me, albeit and slower and less agile me.
I said good-bye to my graduating students yesterday. Tears flowed all around. I have taught these kids for 3 yrs...they have seen me with a cane, pale and in pain and at my best...there were a lot of hugs...I may not be able to be me all the time but I can still give my best to others for as long as I live and breath...Giving is what makes my life bearable. I get to forget 'me' for a while and concentrate on someone else. I makes a huge difference in my life.
Do not give up but please search out alternatives...there may be some. Alternate therapies like yoga, deep tissue massage, biofeedback, pilates...you never know, maybe they can help with the leaking and the spasms...just do not give up that fight.
Every day of sunshine proves to me that there is a miracle hiding behind each cloud (no, I am not on anything!)...I take my miracles where and when I can get them.
Sharon