Hi all,
All though I am currently married, my marriage will end within 2 years or sooner, depending if my wife gets a job or not, otherwise, I have to hold out until my youngest daughter graduates high school which is in 2 years.
For those of you that know me, my marriage has been a nightmare for more than 20 years of the 26 yrs I am married. Each year seems to get worse and worse.
I am 57 years old and I have a lot to offer someone and have never been unfaithful with my wife although lots of men friends that I do know said I should have cheated many years ago. Cheating is not my nature though.
That being said however, I cannot continue to live this way as life is passing me by. My quandry is I do not feel comforatabe praying to God to help me get a divorce so I can get my marriage annulled as I am a Catholic as God does not approve of divorce. Yet the other side of my brain tells me that God does not want me to be miserable either as HE did not create me to be miserable.
I bring this up now because I have an opportunity to go on a date into NYC with a divorced woman and we have gotten to know each other a little bit. I asked her last week and she said Yes. There is a possibility that this could lead to romance but my current life as it is is, I am not in a position to do so as I am not divorced. However, being a man, I just dont care anymore because my marriage contract has been over for a long, long time.
I can't really say where this will wind up when we go into the city but to be honest, if she wants to be more than just friends, and wants to be sexually intimate, that would be great.
However, the other side of the coin is perhaps she just wants to be no more than friends because of my current situation. In the past, she said she cares for me as a brother or a great friend. If that is the case, and I want more, how would I let her know what my intentions are without just coming out and say it?
If I do not pursue that I want to be sexaully involved, then it looks like that I am not really interested, at least that is what I have come to believe how women think, at least in my experiences.
We will be spending all day in NYC and I have told her there is a great place that I want to treat her to dinner that I always go to when I have had to see my Cancer doctor at Sloan Kettering (I had Kidney Cancer). With wine, and I usually spend close to $200 on just one bottle of wine, it can get expensive.
Any advice from men and women would be greatly appreciated.
RC
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