Hi gang!
Sorry I haven't been on this site for a while, spend most of my time on Facebook, but this I can't post on my wall. To keep you updated, on May 22nd, I had a 10 hour surgery at Mount Sinai with Dr Cohen, who successfully gave me another K pouch, and it worked this time, but, after five surgeries in only 35 months, I'm left weak, and totally drained of my energy. At the request of my insurance company, I applied for government long term disability, the reason being so they wouldn't have to pay the full monthly sum of only a little over $2000, but merely the balance of that amount after subtracting how ever much the government gives me (I say only $2000 because in Toronto, that's barely enough to live on, it's not cheap living in a big city).
Sooooooo.........today, I got a call from Canada Health, I was actually approved for permenant LTD...so my dilemma? I'm only 46, I'm too young to retire from working. Part of me desperately wanted to return to work, so I'd have a purpose in life (I really loved my career in X-ray, I was able to help dozens of people each day, and could hold my head high). But now, for the first time ever, I'm faced with the very real possibility of never working again, and it's upsetting and worrying my conscience. It's hard to put into words, but I'll simply say, if I stay on the government LTD, even if I loose my private disability, I'll always have some income (thank God for my hubby Freddy, who I know would never let me go without), but it's not much, and I have no idea what I will do with my life. I'm only 46, how can I have pride in myself if I can't earn an honest living? I know the reality, and I know it's not my fault, and I'm definitely NOT saying living on LTD is milking the system, but, for some reason, that what a small part of me actually feels like.
Now, if I really wanted, I could lie to myself, and to my doctor, and say I feel fine (even though I really don't, and probably never will again, not like I use to) so he could approve my return to work. But, if I do that, I loose my LTD from the government and the insurance company, and it would be damn near impossible to get it back should I return to work, and get sick again, which is a very real possibility. I'm also afraid if I return to work, and get sick, they'll find a way to have me dismissed as I'm just not reliable health wise, so, what do I do, play it safe accept the LTD, or risk going back to work, facing either of these two options. First, I feel just fine, and go back to getting a fully pay cheque, not having to rely on anyone but myself, or, secondly, get sick again, be forced off work again, and risk loosing not only my job, but any hope of income.
Sounds like a simple choice, but it's not, I don't know what to do. For now, I'm staying off because it will take many more months to recover from the surgeries, BUT, while I've been off I've also been diagnosed with bilateral carpal tunnel syndrome, seeing the surgeon on the 15th, will probably require surgery to fix it since typing on a key board, which is a big part of my job, hurts like hell in both hands.....then, my right hip and knee needs replacing from the arthritis and osteoporosis (all thanks to years of 85mg/day of prednisone from 1991-1995). Sounds like I'm answering my own question, but, its not so simple, the idea of 4 more surgeries isn't exactly thrilling, but if I ever want to progress, I have to get this done. I could put it on hold for a year or so, and try to work, or, stay off even longer, and get it fixed first, then try returning to work, OR, say screw work, and just stay off indefinitely, so I'm not rushing to get four more surgeries.
I'm sorry for venting, but my life feels like it's been turned up side down, with no right or wrong solution, so I'm asking you, what would you do? You know, it's strange, I never once considered any of this until I got the LTD approval today, then, it suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks. I never really seriously considered the possibility of never going back to work, and I'm not sure how my mental health will fare staying off. It's strange, no matter how much you may dislike, or even despise working, you'd be amazed at just how much you miss it when you've been off as long as I have. You may not miss the work aspect of it, but you very much miss the socializing aspect of it. Being suddenly cut off from day to day contact with people plays on your mind, and wears you down until you'll do almost anything to regain the former life you once knew. It's just another piece of the puzzle that is life with a chronic illness, any and all advice would be appreciated, thanks everyone!
cheers,
Eric