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Wow, I would never have imagined that I would be censured here when talking about what comes out of the rear end since this is what most of us deals with every day.
What am I suppoed to call "it"?

We do understand about your mess (another 4 letter word). I for one have been there done that.

I am 50 and not looking for love after my two failed marriages, but if it happens, it just might have been meant to be.

It is an automated filter, with a bunch of assorted words on the list. So, sorry about that.

But, alas, I think we can figure out what you were saying!

Jan

Lovelife,
Sensorship issues aside, I can relate to the being in your 30's, single and incontinent...I was in my teens and incontinent, got my k pouch at 18 then had it fail followed by lots of surgery, lots of leakage, lots of dating, more leakage, a wedding (wore a diaper tied down to my abdomen under my wedding dress), divorce and a lot of dating until 38 when I met my hubby and my k pouch fell apart again....much more leakage, mess and a dozen more sugeries....
Leakage is NOT a deal breaker in a relationship. Attitude is. It is embarassing, mortifying, terrifying and a whole lot of other things but if you and the person are right for each other it is Not a deal breaker....
It is how you deal with it that will ultimately make the difference in how they do...if you fall apart in tears, get depressed and angry then yup, they will have problems...but if you just steam full spead ahead, change the sheets and keep going...then they will accept it too.
People are a lot more compassionate then you might think...and in the begining you can banish sleepovers and aim for afternoon or predate sex until you are comfortable with overnights...be creative.
Sharon

Thank you very much for your replies. They comfer me. There are noone I can speak with about this. It is destroying my optimism at times I just break down and cry.

Dear all, an update is in it's place. One month after writing the prev. post, I meet a man. We have been together since august 2013, and things are going good. It seems my body loves love )
Big hugs to all of you. Eventhough I don't know you, it means the world to me, that you are here to listen and comment.

Ups, should have been a

How wonderfully uplifting it was to read your post! The right person makes it all right! So glad you found someone special!

Cyber hugs and congratulations on finding love and hope!
Sharon