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Thank-you for writing this! Lets hope everyone reads this!

Well said.

@Mysticobra posted:

Well said.

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?!?!! LOL!

Tovia, this is concerning. As a moderator I need to know where there are inappropriate comments. I have no idea if you are being overly sensitive or if others are being overly insensitive. I have gotten notices from women who felt sort of “creeped out” when men comment on the women’s health board. Perhaps that was sensitivity on their part and it is a public forum. Often, these are very private issues that women have hard time discussing. I have seen no complaints regarding the men’s health forum.

I am also aware of some conflicts regarding input from members with zero experience or expertise appearing to want to help, with the opposite result. I consider this mostly personality conflicts, but I do intervene when it turns into a flame war. Generally, these people just need to avoid each other.

Still, if you see posts you find alarming or inappropriate, please report the reply or send me a private message about it. This whole site is about support and information, not cliques and “territory.”

Thanks!

Jan

Tovia,

Sorry to say, but it happens. On all boards, in all groups. Goodness knows that it shouldn't, that we should be kinder or more sensitive to other peoples' emotions and emotional health but sometimes we slip-up or overstep.

I know that at times I have shown insensitivity without realizing it and I have apologized. It is just that some of us have had 'an experience' with something and we think that it can help someone else. Sometimes, we are, sadly, wrong and it has the opposite effect.

There have been 1 or 2 trolls over the years. But our precious moderators have thankfully, put pay to them and removed them from the site.

On occasion, you can say something to someone and they will take it wonderfully and yet you say the same thing to someone else and they consider it insulting or worse.

I have learned to reread everything that I write, 3xs, before posting it, asking myself if my words are helpful or hurtful and how they could be misinterpreted.

It is sad, but maybe I needed to learn a lesson too.

So please, do not judge us too harshly. We try hard. We are all, mostly, here to help.

Sharon