Hey gang!
Well, not sure if this is a rant or a rave, but today marks exactly 8 weeks since my last surgery. It's been a bumpy recovery, pain has been manageable with Percocet, but trying to get my strength back is the real battle. Only a 30 minute walk and I'm beat (my usual walks are about two hours). Granted, I did have three relatively major surgeries in only a 17 month period, and, I'm not 20 anymore (I'm 20, + 25!), but still, I'm concerned. I should be more energetic by this point. My employers and evil disability insurance rep and both trying to force me back to work, but I just don't have the strength, and neither will believe me. Thankfully, Dr. Cohen has been on vacation for over a month, and I haven't even got my post op follow up apt, so I may have several weeks yet. But the stress these people put on you is insane, for example.......Freddy, his mom and I flew to DC for Xmas. We were only there for five days, most of that time I spent in the hotel room, I was just too weak. But it was a planned family reunion (Freddy's family), we had it booked 6 months before I even knew I was having surgery. For over two years, I've been stuck at home, sick, staring at the four walls, so even though I wasn't quite up to it, I desperately looked forward to a change of scenery, and to see my sister in law and her family, who flew all the way from El Salvador to meet us there. It was really nice to see everyone. Now, flash forward to last week, when my manager called, to say I was a fraud because I flew to DC while on disability (Freddy and I both work for the same department, and someone, who remains unknown, ratted me out to my manager). My SOB manager, who has Crohns himself, told me if I didn't provide a doctors note stating I was medically cleared to fly, he'd force me to repay all the disability and force me back to work. He also added that if I don't send him the note in one day he'd see to it I'd loose my job, what an...well, I can't swear here, fill in the blank! I actually did ask Dr Cohen if I'd be ok to fly, and he told me I'd be fine, so I'm not worried about getting the note. The fact that they are not just asking, but demanding it and threatening me is so insulting and infuriating!!!! I politely reminded him of how I was the only person who defended him when he was off sick for over 6 months, but he told me it doesn't matter, nice huh? Needless to say I don't want to go back to work now, and would happily screw him over if given the chance.....BUT, try as I may, I just can't stoop to his level, I'm better then that, and that's exactly what I told him! I don't get it, I've been 100% honest all along! and all I get is grief in return. Admittedly, I'm beginning to see why so many milk it for all they can. I don't know what to do at this point, and suggestions?
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