although it has been 26 years since my surgery, I remember well those first post op months. It's like the pouch has to learn its function. You have to learn what foods agree/disagree. It is such a learning process. Back then, I remember it felt like I had to go to the bathroom every 20 min. My docs told me to try and put it off as long as I could. Back then, there was no internet, no support. I called my doc - - I was so disheartened. He said it would get better at 6 months and at a year I would be even better. he was right. Things did get better. I won't kid you; it was a rough ride for a while! My thoughts go out to you and here are some things that worked for me: When in doubt check with your doc first!!!
(1) I kept a food diary. I added different foods gradually to see what agreed or disagreed.
(2) Perianal skin care was very important. I even carried supplies in a bag in my purse to use when I was out. Ointments (Hemmorrhoid ointment works for me just applied to the outer skin) Perianal pads (soft cotton shaped like a butterfly that wicked the moisture and caustic stuff away from my skin) I used a portable bidet at home so I could keep really clean really fast) Ok don't laugh - - I used a hairblower at home to dry my skin really well before applying ointment and pad.
3. I can not say enough good things about cultured Bulgarian buttermilk. A glass of that makes my J Pouch a happy camper.
4. Metamucil helps bulk up my stool. Immodium helps slows my gut down. I only take it now on an as needed basis.
5. having a supportive family. We would be in a store, and if I told my husband I had to find a bathroom he was cool!!! Oh and in the beginning it seems it took me a long time in the bathroom. I think I couldn't tell when I was through. He was so patient!!! Now I zip in and out of the bathroom in no time at all.
Hang in there!!! What is that saying? When you feel you are at the end of your rope, tie a knot and keep on swinging. and know there is always someone here to listen. Every question is important!