This is not your average surgery. It does take a year or more for your body to adjust. Meanwhile you have to make sacrifices with your diet, meds and general lifestyle. Having a j-pouch is not the greatest, but it's better than UC, cancer, being dead and for most people having an external appliance. It will get better. Most important is patience. I would say if you still have a bad taste in your mouth about your surgeon after the dilation surgery, then maybe your should just get someone else. Hopefully you and he just got off to a bad start. Good luck.