Silo City - I got cha - totally. We wish we'd had a healthy colon - that was much better. We did not, so we are thankful for the pouch. We hope one day medicine will find a way to eliminate the j pouch as a need for anyone! I think for me it started getting to me around year 25 - but everyone's journey with the pouch is different - and I am now at year 30 and I'm feeling less bad about it again. I went through a period of just being so fed up with it. I guess we are human and just doing the best we can. Lots of good things in life for sure - and lots of not so good. My pouch was part of what cost me my first marriage - that and the infertility it caused - it was very hard on the marriage - we were also very young. 2nd marriage of 20 years has been great - he's a good guy and does not care about my scars or that I poop a zillion times a day or that I can't go out sometimes due to a back GI night - he just goes on about life and knows sometimes I have fatigue and need to stay home. He just loves me. Looking back, first husband was just sort of a jerk ...so it's better that marriage ended, but it was hellish at the time. Love is a good thing and it's so much better as a 52 year old person than it was in my youth. All older people know what I'm talking about. I think the younger folks getting the pouch are going to do a lot better with it than us old timers.
