I'm an active user on a paintball forum for a few years now, this is the only other forum I have participated in. Obviously the other one is a hobbie, and I want to take part in this forum to help other's who are going what I have already gone through, and to learn new things myself as well.
The issues your having with some members not getting what you're saying or thinking you mean something else when you don't is definitely frustrating. Some people don't really "get" the tone of online forums, and some constantly take things the wrong way or don't get the tone it was meant. Basically I'm saying they might not even know they're doing it, but it'll still piss you off. I don't know what the case is with your situation specifically, but I know how you feel.