Thanks Jan,
I am no angel or martyr...just had enough experience with toxic people to know which ones are worth the effort and which ones need to be put out with the trash!
My world has shrunk considerably over the years and my circle of friends along with it. I accept the good in people who possess it and even if they have a 'chip or crack' that is ok too (I've got my own!)...as long as they are not intentionally trying to hurt or injure me.
I do not need to agree or understand everyone to accept them..or visa-versa...I just need to put them in little boxes. Friends I choose, family I accept (within limits), business partners and associates I deal with and hubby and co...well they get a pass most often...(and yes, I had friends who told me to leave him, divorce him or kick him in the butt...but he stuck by me through thick and thicker...and it turns out that time does mellow some people...confinement here proved that I was right...we laugh more than cry, scream if needed and play often...he was, effectively a keeper!)
Age helps...I run slower and judge less.
Hugs to all
Sharon