@skn69 posted:I was raised by a mom who always said that she would rather see me dead than with a bag (I have been sick since birth so it has been a long journey and I had a colostomy from age 2-3).
At 18 I opted for a K pouch which was still very experimental back in 1979 (the ancestor of the J pouch, an internal ileostomy with only a tiny stoma outside)...I never regretted it. And my mom never forgave me. Any outside manifestation of my disease was a failure to her...
I have had to fight to keep my pouch. Surgery after surgery, repair after repair...because it is important to me...but I can totally understand that some people just want to get on with their lives. And they are probably right!
Maybe if I had not been 'polluted' with my mom's opinion I would not have been so tenacious...we all have to live with what works for us and makes us happy.
I hope that the 2 of you (you and your pouch) live a very long, happy and healthy life!
Sharon
I am 100% sorry that your mom said that to you, you did not deserve that at all. I was abused by my mother too, but we are survivors of abuse, never let abuse overcome you, be different than your mother.
Let me be the one to say, "I would rather see you alive and with a bag than dead."