Mema, try Cymbalta. It has been a life saver for me. It is a general anixity med and also used for pain management. I had Jeffrey put on it and it is so hard for me get this kid to take meds, and he actually likes it. It doesn't make him feel like he is on a drug. It takes the edge off for him. I've been on it for six years, along with Wellbutrin, Busbar, clonazepan. I know it's a lot but when I try to cut back, I get all crazy. I have really really bad major depressive disorder and major anixity disorder. The anixity is worse. You have been through a lot and it's okay to get help. It might also help,with your Crohns.
Again, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband and sister. It's a Heavy load. Feel better soon.