Your stronger than you think babe
Since it is not absolute official you have Crohns, I would go for the pouch redo, that you do not have regrets in the future.
Honestly for other opinions: I would just call up the colon surgeon offices and tell them my situation and go from there.
I hope everything works out and keep us updated
If you need an ostomy in the future, rock it
Sorry to hear about your father! I bet he is in a better place and that he is very proud of you