Lee, if you are looking for help relating to your J pouch, this is a good place to be. Many of us have been through difficult times with our pouches and have received suggestions from group members. A good starting point would be to tell us what problems you are having with your pouch and I know some group members will respond. If your distress is primarily psychological in nature, there are other groups that can better assist you. I do hope that you can find happiness and a way to enjoy life.