Wow Sharon, you must be married to one. Just so you know some of us have commute's to work to deal with. I drive an hour one way and there is a 45 minute stretch where there is no bathroom at all unless you want to stop beside the interstate (and get a ticket for that as well). This is a place to vent about conditions that we J-pouchers deal with, which I did. You would think you wouldn't be judged so harshly by someone who has to deal with the same issues. Let's all hope you don't soil your car seat with that Karma. Have a better day.
Dave: I now have a j-pouch and my urgency is less.. but EVERY DAMN day, I am running late.. up against the clock.. to get to work because it never fails.. I seem to have to use the restroom .. a lot.. before I leave the house. I mean, I get up, have coffee, sometimes a small amount of food if I am famished (otherwise, I prefer to eat when I get to work), make the bed, get work stuff ready like my clothes and briefcase and any errands I am going to do after work, etc. etc., use the bathroom, shower and get dressed and BOOM, I gotta go and that delays me. The stress I have each morning is incredible.. I have even reduced my work schedule to 30 hours a week so I only go in 4 days a week.. but still!!! And I got an ADA accommodation that says I can get to work at 10 AM and have a grace period of 15 minutes, but should it be 16.. and that happens multiple times, I can be let go!!! So I rush out of the house, down two flights of stairs, get in the car, rush and stress out while driving to work, rush to park, rush out of the car to get to my building, rush to take the elevator cause we are on the 4th floor, stressing out all the time as the minutes tick by and I don't think running up the stairs with my briefcase and lunch is a good idea and walk down the long long hall and if my boss isn't in his office, I have to CALL HIM from the office phone so he can LOG MY TIME. Boy, it sucks eggs. So, all this is to say.. I FEEL YOU!!! I Feel you!!! I know I gave a little advice in my other reply because I had UC for about 20 some years before getting the J pouch and can totally relate to your situation (although I never sped to get home, I did pull over many many a time or like I said, pooped in towels in my car.. never a good feeling.. always disgusting and then it's like.. you GOTTA get home to clean up!!! you can't go to work like that and sit in your work outfit like that no matter how many baby wipes you used!!) Okay, sorry to write a book, but I wanted to send my empathy!