Skally, you have come to the right place. Everyone here is either going through what you have just described or has gone through it. Some of us are parents and have watched our kids go through this. Me, I'm a mom. My son is 24 years old and has his second ostomy in less than a year. This is a horrible disease. It is extremely painful. You have every right to feel what you are feeling and everyone here understands. You are not alone. Last year my son had burns on his skin so bad he has scars. He also has Aspergers Syndrome, a double whammy. Come here and read out problems and join the discussion. We all put our two cents in! But getting it out and talking to people who have been there and understand will help a great deal. And in the process you may be able to help someone else. Feel better.