Hi Dana,
I recently went through something similar. At 4am on Feb. 24 I woke up feeling like my gut had ruptured. The pain would not subside and went to the ER around 7am (after the kids were awake). They said I had a partial blockage, I didn't want the ng tube so went home to tough it out. Not surprisingly I wasn't tough enough and was back in the ER the next day, got the ng tube and waited 3 days and it never corrected itself. I had bowel resection surgery and now feel similar to you what you are going through. I was in the hospital for a week after surgery before my bowels would even start working again. Now I'm home and in pain and taking longer to recover than thought. I also have 2 young kids (1 and 4) and a job that I need to go back to at some point.
I do agree with post above that you have to ask for help during this time.
sorry I don't have any advise, but there are others in the same boat.
Adam