As I mentioned earlier in the thread I would have handled it in the manner suggested by your best friend, although I think asking for a public apology is a bit much and unnecessary..............however I think it should have been settled in that manner immediately. From what you said your original post, it sounds like you made statements to her consistent with an admission of the alleged conduct. One of the first things I learned in first year of law school contracts class is that silence or words other than a denial are often deemed to be an acceptance or an admission of a statement when the circumstances are such that one would be expected to offer a denial.......anyway you are not in court on this one, so it really only matters in her mind. It's likely that you are not a confrontational person and I have many clients who assiduously avoid conflict and confrontation, and come to me because they couldn't communicate, directly and in person, something that in their minds would have created a confrontation. But then I get hired to do it for them. Virtually all of the business litigation matters I have right now resulted when direct communication of this nature didn't happen when it should have. I understand that a lot of clients do not want to behave in a manner that is viewed as litigious, but at the same time, many situations in our lives (including most importantly for us on this board, medical situations and interactions with doctors), require a person to be his or her own best advocate. I have had countless conversations with personal injury clients who articulate symptoms and issues that are nowhere discussed in their medical records, and when I ask them about that, they don't really have a good answer on why that is the case. Stand up for yourself, and speak your mind, and these situations can be defused quickly. Anyway I know the relationship and job status complicate matters somewhat, so I hope you understand that I say all of the above just to give you background on my own feelings about dealing with similar disputes, although they are usually over money and property and not bathroom use.