Have you guys tried to take some pills for ED yet? They do work, and I hope that after some time, it will make a difference. My impact was not as bad, but I still had issues, until I went to my urologist and really worked on several items to try. I also take testosterone and that along with the pills works very well. Explore everything out there, it is very worth it. For Tia, tell your BF, there is nothing to be distressed about, failure is only in his mind because IF you are willing to work with him, and tell it will all be ok, and DO things that don't need an Erection, it will ease the anxiety. When you get past that marker in your mind, you'd be surprised and a lot of this is also mental. However, the physical part is VERY frustrating as well, and if you let this get to you, it is a spiral. It doesn't have to be. Remember, the penis is a muscle and if you don't use it, it isn't a good thing, and it won't be fixed in one miracle moment. I hope the best for everyone here, and the doctor is the place to go and regroup and get a game plan together. I don't say that lightly, good luck!