While I am grateful for everyone's comments on the bidet (I got suggestions here both this time and a previous time I asked for advice on cleaning up following a bowel movement), I would like to add my experience. I purchased a portable bidet from Amazon as one person suggested to try before considering installing one in my home. My greatest difficulty with cleaning myself following a bowel movement is that I have this small pocket, for lack of a better term, where feces seems to stick. It is not a place that the bidet could get to-I still need to go in and clean with a Q tip. My physician says it is just an anatomical thing with how I was sewn back together and nothing can be done about it. Also, people said I could carry it with me and use it at work-let me tell you, none of these people must teach. There is no way a person could try to use that thing and get out of the restroom and back to the classroom, absolutely no way, before the bell rings. So I thought I would add these thoughts, both for people who suggested it to me so that they can understand perhaps why I ranted, and for other people considering using it. It seems as though someone needed to include a con for bidets when others are pro bidet and I wanted people to be able to make a more informed choice.
Also, I found Native's comments very helpful. I think we as members of this forum need to hear from people that are in the unique position of being both surgeon and patient. I think there are some nitty-gritty details that a surgeon simply cannot know; he just knows what the official literature says. Also, as far as my surgeon gauging me wrong, he was actually doing a favor for my gastro by seeing me. I had a lengthy drive to see her, and my appointment was at the end of the day. When she found out I couldn't get the surgery done, she got on the phone to see if the surgeon (who works at the hospital across the street) had left for the day yet and had his employee set me up to see him without his knowledge. She said he would not mind because he had just done the same thing to her, but I don't blame him if he was perhaps briefer than normal since he was halfway out the door when she called.