MCH, that totally sucks that you can't wipe properly because of the way they sewed you up. What a nightmare.
I'm sorry for mentioning the whole bidet thing – I just meant it in passing to say that I understood the unpleasantness of not being able to "get clean". In my case, my j-pouch tended to let loose like a sprinkler. I went through a lot of loo paper, and sometimes still didn't feel clean, especially in summer.