First I used the hand held bidet bottle, then a sprayer with the water source from tbe toilet and finally I got a bidet seat. Each way worked better than using wipes. My husband put in an electrical wall outlet by the toilet so I could get the bidet. It warmed up the water and was the best. Any way that uses water should help you feel a lot better.
I use liquid hand soap that contains olive oil and it helps with my hands. I also use hand lotion containing coconut oil at least once a day.
You are right. They didn't tell me as many details, about life after the surgeries, as they should have. Knowing what to expect ahead of time would have helped. I found this group soon after my surgeries and don't know how I would have made it without everyone here.
My j-pouch ultimately failed so I now have a permanent ileostomy. It is not horrible like my my loop ileo was. Richard is right in that I feel much better than I did with my j-pouch. I'm not suggesting you get rid of your j-pouch but am letting you know if you do need to do this in the future that it will be better than your temp ileo.