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My husband has been pretty supportive over the past 7 years of my seemingly ongoing health 'crises'. It seems to me though, that it isn't just 'our disease'. It affects family and friends in various, sometimes profound ways. During my last episode in hospital he was clearly trying to keep in all in but it was apparent that he was extremely frustrated. He was finally able to express his anger about my ongoing illness. I think it's completely understandable that he was angry. Being able to talk about it without me being upset by it was very helpful for both of us. I was also able to talk about the guilt I feel for being sick so often. Both his anger and my guilt are maybe irrational but they're real and best not 'shoved down'. 

I know we suffer hugely to a degree that most people really don't understand and it feels only right that we remind them of that and that we get upset when they don't seem to get it. But I'm just saying that I needed to try to understand his perspective too. I can say that it really helped me as well. People always ask how I'm doing. They rarely ask how he is doing. I think it's important that our support people get support too.

Just another perspective...though not  the best one for you necessarily I recognize. 

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