Duck, so sorry to hear you're still having these issues. That's no way to live your life. My experience is EXACTLY the same as Mysticobra above, so I won't go through all the details. I was miserable for 12 years until I met the surgeon who said, "I can fix this". He gave me the ileostomy, and he removed the j-pouch (which you may not need to have done). I was in the hospital for 6 fairly easy days, and I've never looked back. I have my life back.
I love my ileostomy. It's easy to take care of, and it's easy to live with. I echo everything Mysticobra said about his ostomy. The positive benefits of having a normal life and feeling good again far outweigh the minimal issues of having an appliance. Also, it might help if you can find an ostomy support group in your area, as well as a good ostomy nurse to help you if you need it.
I've sent you a private message with my phone number in case you want to talk live.
Good luck to you, Duck. Please seriously consider this option and put this misery behind you.