so much going on. So many things I can worry/ask about. But for now, I just thought I'd mention Butt Powder. It seems everyone uses butt creams (ilex, Calmoseptine, a&d...).
I prefer to use powder, it just instinctively feels more healing to help dry the area and it's much more comfortable for me too. I use a generic drugstore brand that is 85% talc, 15% zinc. The common name is Caldesene. Anyway, the zinc really does create a great barrier from moisture (it's hard to wash off your hands!). And sometimes, if I know I'm gonna be eating tomato sauce or something, I will put ilex on top of the powder For double protection.
oh, and don't use cornstarch powder, cause that could feed yeast theoretically, I've been told.
Just thought I'd share these thoughts.