Hey. The first days after my surgery was hell because i went to the bathroom very often and the burns were so bad it felt like my ulcerative colitis was back. My stomi-nurse told me two things that i remember now: Hold it as long as you can (sometimes it feels like you can't hold it anymore, but if i give it some time the feeling goes away). Also use Inotyol for the burns. I live in Scandinavia so i dont know if you have this where you live, but it's a perscription free cream for psoriasis and eczema. You need to clean yourself thouroughly before you apply it, but it works wonders for me.