Pouchbro, I joined this forum before I had my surgeries. I wanted to know what life with a j pouch looked like. I never really felt that this site was negative. I know there are a lot of really knowledgeable people on here that help other people that want to hear it from someone who has been there. My life after my surgeries is far from perfect, but it beats having UC by a long shot. I think we all feel safe here and feel as though on those days nothing is going right, we can vent here, because we all get it. Some of us can't get into our GIs for months for an appointment, so this is a good place to maybe get some good advice on what could begoing on with our pouches. I'm sorry you feel it's negative here, but know we don't all feel that way.