I understand what you're trying to say; however, this forum is also a very good place to vent. Most people don't understand what we've gone through or how life changes after a j-pouch. It is very easy to feel alone and think no one has ever had happen what I've had. This forum gives us a place to not only seek answers, but to connect with someone who understands. Sometimes it means letting off steam to people who can relate. Sometimes it means encouraging someone else who is down that there is light at the end of a dark tunnel.
There is a time to weep with those who weep, mourn for those who mourn and rejoice with those who rejoice. This forum is to be a support to one another in each of these areas.
May we each do our part to support and uphold one another.