Sounds like you are pretty frazzled Jeffsmom,
I read in the general section that he has a sort of seroma under the suture line...they weep a lot and can cause the flange to unglue so you may need some sort of secondary product to hold the flange on like a tape or tie (there is something called a Montgomery tie) that can hold everything on while he heals up. No squeezing, it can push the seroma in deeper or make it travel down the scar and open it up more.
Hands off (I know that it is hard to get him to listen).
Just keep changing the gauze on it regularly and monitor the colour or if he gets headaches, chills or fever...those were always my triggers that something nasty was up.
My nurse would shoot some saline into the opening to rince it out (one nurse used betadine then saline to keep it all clear of infection and clean) but you may not need to do that if it is a small seroma. Just avoid any weight or pressure on his abdomen.
Keep the diet gasfree and light and have him empty the bag often to keep it from filling and getting to heavy for the already unstable flange.
Then put him to bed and get yourself a tea and a good book or put on some music and rest...
Sharon
Ps..I am doing better but still frustrated.
Had a wedding Sunday night, got dressed up, ate light beforehand (homemade veggie soup put through the blender)...well obviously it was not light enough because I spent half the evening in the bathroom trying to empty out an uncooperative pouch. like the contents had turned to concrete inside it.
Evening gown, pantyhose, spanks slip...high heels. Not a good mix with a cranky pouch and a tiny bathroom stall with dozens of ladies running in and out...needless to say that I was not a happy camper by the end of the evening. Couldn't eat or dance...missed the sweet table completely...Grrrr
Are we having fun yet?
hugs