I love your attitude Jeffsmom! I didn't realize it but you are only 3-4 months older than I am 
You need HRT. I can imagine going to the restroom 100 times a day more than 100 hot flashes! There is no way anyone could function with those. I would be on HRT too if I had just one tenth of that many hot flashes, Plus a few of my friends are MD's and they are on it.
Quality of Life takes on a new meaning when confronted with these horrid medical problems/diseases/syndromes. I feel like I'm more of less putting out fires and when I think I have one under control another rears it's ugly head. When I hit 40 the warranty on my body ran out. That was the year of my first root canal and the hysterectomy - uterus only. Then my UC diagnosis a year later. I'd had it for years but thought it was IBS...
So what do we do? We do the best we can and I've learned that I need to be my own health advocate. I never thought I'd be disabled instead of working at 59. I think Jan Dollar mentioned that she is turning 60 this year too. Sharon is 4-5 years younger at least.
I'm glad you are feeling better and maybe Sharon can get some relief with HRT too.