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Reply to "Loosing my mind, what's left of it!"

Hi Sweetie,

Wow, silence is not golden...it is a sign that the world has turned on its head for you once again (and again, and again...). I am so terribly sorry...there are no words.

First off, I am going to be my psyco-rigid self and give you some advice. Sympathy is wonderful but concrete advice is better.

First off, You have way to much on your plate and need to streamline and simplify your processes.

Start with all of those km that you are driving...can you move your parents into a place closer to home? If they are now officially dependant and require your constant care, no matter how much they love their home and their neighbourhood, they need to be in something smaller (if they live in a house then an apt) and eaiser to manage as well as closer to their primary care-giver: You. They must move. That is compromise 1

2. You cannot be there for them if your body is falling apart in front of their eyes.

You are not absorbing anything...if you have just dropped 22kg then you need some sort of boost or tpn...this is not funny. You were not that fat to start with! You need to order liquid food supplements, start vitamin loading and get your body some energy back...half of your depression is malnutrition. You do not have enough energy to do it all and your body is balking at you. Your iron levels, trace minerals (magnisium + Bcomplex play major roles is nerve and sleep patterns)...get an appt with your local nutritionist too...This Is a medical question and not a comfort issue...

3. If you are not absorbing nutrients then you are probably not absorbing your anti-depressants either...crush into water, chew (they taste like crap so follow with juice) or whatever you need to do to get them down...

4. Stop hiding from your wonderful parents. They know you and have been there for the last 45+yrs...do not add the burden of pretending to them...it makes them feel useless and old...They are still your parents and respect them enough to tell them (they still have eyes to see you melting away in front of them...) how sick you are but that you feel good helping them...make them you accomplices...it may hurt you to tell them but trust me, they already know. It also takes a weight off of your rather fragile shoulders.

5. Ignore your sister...she is not in your orbit. Don't waste what little energy you have worrying about her..let karma do it for you.

Hun, if I could I would fly over there right now and pick the burden up off of your shoulders...but I can't...So find some nice, young volenteers to do it for you...help exisits...ask the nursing schools, unemployeed health care workers...There are people out there...you need to look (KGG or something like that where you can put a local add in for help)...

You also need some time to heal your aching body...get some air, go for a walk...breath!

Huge hugs

Sharon

 

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