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Do him a favor and don’t allow it.  My son did the the same to me.  He vents all sorts of nastyness to me,  and my husband allows it.  My husbands first reaction is to look at me and tell me “What did you do”. Don’t let him guilt you into doing everything for him.  Hold him accountable for his behavior.  I speak from knowledge.  Because my husband always defended my son’s behavior and ALWAYS took his side, my kid is now so verbally abusive to me that I Am not safe in my own home. I’m only saying this publicly because, as moms, we go way overboard to protect our kids.  Our kids, and all kids, quite frankly, need to learn personal responsibility, manners, and consequences.  Sadly,my husband did not support my efforts or protect me, and I am now being abused, actually by both of them.  I do not feel safe in my house, and afraid to the point that I feel threatened for my personal safety.  Don’t let it get that far, and believe me, as he get older, he will get more angry, and will get more abusive first with his mouth, and then perhaps with his fists.   The shit show that happened in my house this week never would have happened if my son was held responsible for his actions.  Please, do your child a good service and make him understand that you did not cause his illness, are more than willing to help him with what ever he needs, but you will not be bullied or abused by him.  I’m there is you need me, but I will not be your punching bag.  It sounds like your husband is on your side, sadly, mine never was.  Oh, and my husband has never ever taken a day off from work or spend one single night in the hospital with our son!  I did it all!  The only time he showed up was if he had surgery, and then insisted on staying in a hotel.  After a $3000 hotel, bill I sent him home. And moved into Jeffrey’s hospital room for another week.  And still got dumped on!  Please, don’t let it happen to you.  I feel terrible for my so. As well, and to add to the UC, he also has Aspergers and PSC which is a potentially fatal liver disease.  I didn’t cause it, give it to him, but I do wish I could take it away from him and put it on me.  He never deserved to be this sick in his young life and have all these issues, but the bottom line, I didn’t cause it.  Do not feel guilty.  

 

That said, I hope the procedure went well today and that Your son finds some relief.  

 

Dianne

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