I have a k pouch...spicy doesn't affect me on the exit as much as you guys...my stoma gets irritated but unless I really overdo it or go on a 1-week binge (holidays) I am reasonably satisfied...That said, I have had mine for 38yrs...things used to get hot, irritated and burn...now, like the others, I find that spices go well with yogurt or milk or coconut milk...it cuts down on the burn...lemon also helps (counteracts the acidity somehow)...
Give it time or use in moderation.
Sharon