Nice to hear you are doing better! I agree with you about the mental side of having a new stoma. I've had to work on that part. I invested in ostomy underwear, invested as it's expensive, and it helps a lot. Prior to that I bought bag covers but the underwear is better. It keeps material in-between the bag and skin.
EVERYONE contemplating removal there are other threads in here where we have discussed our decision process and surgery outcomes. Also if you have any questions please ask. Removal surgery is major. Nothing is too small to ask about. Sometimes its the little things that hold us back.