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I wasted money on FOUR failed IUIs. We should have saved it and went straight to IVF. My HSG was perfect, husband's stuff fine, the problem is the scar tissue in our abdomens often displaces the ovaries so they aren't where they should be, or they are covered with scar tissue and eggs can't get in. IVF is really the only chance, and it's still not great numbers.

My advice is to decide in advance how many cycles you will do before you call yourself done whether it works or not. Some people go very deep into debt to keep trying and trying it and if it never works, they are left with a big hole and a lot of despair and no plan for their life now that they know for sure they won't be parents. I developed a detailed and rewarding and rich life plan for the remainder of my life if IVF didn't work, and though I would always have wished I could have been a parent, I had other things I would be focusing on that would make my life fun and worthwhile for me, in a non-parent manner. For me that was doing more traveling, volunteering, and eventually purchasing an RV to tour the country in, but your plan is your own.

I only had a 40% chance of success and was really prepared for it to fail. We could only afford to do it one time, so it was a very big gamble. We only got 3 fertilized embryos that made it to transfer day so we put them all in, and one stuck. My son is now 4.5. But many other people aren't as lucky.

I wish you the best on this journey. I remember every couple of days seeing the same people coming in for ultrasounds throughout the process and wondering which of us would win the lottery. It's nerve-wracking.
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