Normal is a relative term. Are things the same as before having UC/Crohns in the first place? No. There is a new "normal". I know that I am better off than I was 13 years ago when I had my surgeries. I'm learning what my pouch likes and dislikes. I'm thankful for my GI who helped me find medicines that have really helped me be able to live a good life with my j-pouch. Are there days I want to throw the towel in? Yep, but things are a whole lot better than they were.
Just my 2 cents worth