I didn't have a choice of side with the temp or the perm ileo. My temp was placed on the right and perm is on the left. I did request she not place it by or above my waist. Sounds like men on here like it higher than I would want.
Best thing ever invented for us is ostomy underwear. It has a shelf on the inside that you place the bag in. It keeps material between you and the bag. Some bags come with heavier cloth like backing but it's not enough in my opinion. There are bag covers you can purchase on Etsy. I used them until I found the underwear. They fit around your bag and you remove them every time you empty.