Love your screen name Momminator!
First off, those girls are so beautiful. Congratulations, even if it was yrs ago.
Next...
Ok, Your life sucks...badly. No joke...just plain unfair!!!! This is not right. This is not normal. You are entitled to whine, complain, cry and break down...Any normal person would have been a weepying ball of jelly yet you are still fighting and strong. Kudos to you.
As for the support from the home-front....I learned a long time ago that most guys (husbands?) do not get their wives...they give us the responsibilities and then wash their hands of it. We have the 'easy job' and they do not want to know the details....yes, we suck it up. Yes, we shut up. Yes, we cry in the shower.
It is not fair and it is wrong but the guys who do get it and support us are very rare...if you find one, then he is a keeper! (that goes for the wives of pouchers too...Rare to find anyone who doesn't have this disease who understands us)
Something happened to you, I agree but it may not be what you think. It may be the pregnancy hormones combined with the pouch etc that threw your body over the edge.
Have you spoken to your obsgyn about all of this? You may get better results from a hormone treatment than from all of the meds that they are giving you.
How long ago did all of this happen? How old are the girls? Because they tied your tubes you may never have thought about hormones and the pill but it could really help you. I am not a doctor and not sure but it may be worth a try.
My other thought is amino acids...they can be responsible for a lot of problems if they are unbalanced. Supplements may help as well...
Lastly, Yes, it may also be that they touched something when they were inside or had to cut and push some stuff around.
No matter what, you have all of our support...talk, cry and share...keeping it to yourself only hurts you more.
Sharon