I was diagnosed in 98 with severe UC. This is the short story. I was put on meds that kinda controlled it for 15 yrs. When my husband died suddenly in 2011 2 yrs later I had a major relapse no meds would help. I heard about Jpouch & definitely wanted that not ever the osteomy bag. I thought this would take all my symptoms away & I would live Normal, NOT. Dr's said this is your new Normal. It's not a easy road but, for me better than the lateral. Some depression does go along with disease. He has to find his own way physically & mentally. Lexapro does help, continue to exercise & eat what makes u not get sick, this takes time & experimenting. Be thankful for the good days. Having a loving wife that is staying. He has this group which is a God send. If he has a relationship with the Lord prayer definitely brings you peace. God Bless!