Gin, I've had me perm end ileo (yes, end is easier than loop - I've had both) since January 9 of this year. After an adjustment period with some leaks as the swelling went down, I met with my ostomy nurse who saw right away what appliance system I needed after which my stoma and I have settled in nicely. I am very, very happy that I went ahead with this surgery. I look better, feel better, and can do just about anything. It's a relief to no longer be a slave to my j-pouch and to be off all meds. My butt was sore for about four weeks, but not unbearably so. I know this can be a tough time, right before. You may mourn your pouch, no matter how much trouble it gave you. I did, for a bit. Then I started living my life. Look under "ostomy and skin" and you'll see all kinds of success stories. Those people were my lifeline. Good luck!