Hi Len - It looks like you have been through a lot. I respect your toughness. I don’t have a ton of experience on the topic, but logically, I would explain to the surgeon your concern about bowel control post surgery. If it were me, I would play it by ear post surgery. If bowel control became a mess, I would ask for the Foley - but my bet is that it is not super comfortable. If you mess the bed a bunch - you can ask for the Foley. The surgeon and nurses will have an opinion. Also - try not to worry about soiling the bed - I can see it may be embarrassing, but you will be in a hospital and they have seen it all. Whatever you do, go into the surgery with all of your questions answered so your head is clear. I would hope for a lapro also - the recovery is easier. I am 5’8 275 - big - they are planning a lapro for my JPouch surgery - which is in a few months. I am terrified, but I have been really sick with Crohn’s for 24 years. Never a well year. The doc told me to lose 40 pounds - so far I have gained 2. Best Doug