Well congrats on the baby! That’s some exciting and I’m glad you’re doing well other than the butt burn. Man, that can really reek havoc!
I actually had my takedown two days after my wedding instead of going on my honeymoon, lol. Like you I didn’t think we could get pregnant without IVF or additional support, but 6 months later we were pregnant! Funny how things work out
Anyhow...my first OB was like yours and didn’t think a c section was necessary. My J pouch surgeon Was like yea, no! You only get one shot at the j pouch and pushing to deliver the bag can really mess it up, big time. Why risk it? So my husband and I talked and we both asked for her recommendation and went with another OB that understood the need for a c section. Like the precious poster we had it planned (although I went early bc I had preeclampsia), but I had the colorectal surgeon on call in case something happened or whatever. Since we’ve have had supervises before with the colon removal and takedown, we are also have more scar tissue so they might hit some of that in there during the c section that they might need to break up or that might make it harder to get at the baby. But, the baby is at the front of the belly and the intestines are at the back so most likely there shouldn’t be any problems.
Luckily for me, there problems at all but it’s better to have someone on call who can handle these things. I think the challenge for you will be the distance to the hospital. Where would you deliver if not there, locally? In the end, it’s whatever is right for you and your partner or family. Whatever makes you feel safe about your delivery.
As for the butt burn, I would def recommend the bidet. I also found the calmoseptine ointment helps a lot- it has menthol in it and is like a diaper rash cream that my gastro doc recommended. I use that when things get tough. I don’t think they can prescribe anything tho while you’re pregnant. When you’re not pregnant, you might be able to take cholestyrmine- it’s a powder that can take down the acid and helps reduce frequency, but I doubt that they can give it to you now. Worth asking though.
I hope you can figure out a plan that works for you. Best of luck!