Girlunky, I had this for a little while after surgery, but it passed (certainly before 10 months). Many people report that they choose to pee *every* time they poop, but you’re clearly having a different experience. I do find it a useful challenge/exercise to pee when I could poop, but prefer to delay that, but that’s also not exactly what what you’re describing. I think ACCEPT IT is on to something with the idea that we may be prone to clenching more muscles than are needed to hold in the stool, and unclenching may get more difficult without carefully managed practice. If that’s the case then my approach (of peeing first, essentially) might help over time by better separating these sets of muscles. It can’t directly correct any structural issues, but it could be one way to better train the tools we have.