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Eric,

I was taught the same way about men are not supposed to cry either. I am not sure when that started about men are not supposed to cry, but that suggestion had to be made by an idiot. We are all human beings with feelings. To surpress that is not healthy either.

I'm a 56 yrs old man and I have done a lot of crying but I only let myself completely cry when I am all alone rather then try to hold things back. In the past, wehn ever I felt really sick and would it would go on and on, I would cry. Then I would feel better for a couple of weeks and then for 2 or 3 weeks, I would go through another bad episode. That is how my life was for at least 10 years after my 1st surgery in 1993.

I am also on anti-depressants as my home life is completely shattered.

I know its hard, very hard, but try not to dwell on how sick you are. It doesn't help you for one thing and actully can make things worse.

Toughenough, you certainly have had more then your share of suffering. To be so sick that you are now on Disability has to be upsetting, especially since you know you have the qualification to do a great job. It really sucks that are lives have to be controlled by our health at times. The positive you have is you have a supporting spouse. I don't. When I had Cancer in 2009, my neighbor told me that my wife said to her that "my surgery went well with some complications, I was just disappointed in the outcome." My wife is filled with so much hate that she wants me dead.

That is a stressful situation to be in but I have no control over that. I hope for my wife's sake, that God touches her heart, otherwise, she is headed for disaster, eternally.
Rocket
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