My butt is very often raw and irritated. I know the feeling that you're talking about and it is intense. If I leak and if I don't clean myself immediately my butt burns. It's hard just putting my bottom in water it's so sore. Try taking a sitz bath if you can bear the pain, it will releive it. I have also found that keeping something on, like a Calmoseptine or Desitin at ALL times makes it a bit better and is less likely to get sore. Hope this helps.
Judy